Do Christians bear any responsibility for the response to an immodest appearance? From a convincing lie to common belief, modesty is for the lame and prude. The deception goes something like this.
- If you got it flaunt it.
- Fix yourself up – put on some makeup and heels.
9 Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves modestly and appropriately and discreetly in proper clothing, not with [elaborately] braided hair and gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but instead adorned by good deeds [helping others], as is proper for women who profess to worship God. (1 Timothy 2:9-10)
All Christians should exercise modesty. Both men and women need to know what it looks like. A person seeking more attention than what is owed to God.
- Bragging about personal accomplishments
- Low-cut tops or bottoms
- Tight fitting clothing
- Flashy lifestyle
Worshipping God requires focus on Him. One mistake that often occurs is the overcorrection. As a young kid some friends and I were driving in a residential area until we encountered something in the way. The overcorrection that followed caused us to crash in a yard. The costly attempt to prevent us from getting hurt worked against us. It is the same type of thing that happens in the church. It can get so complicated because well-meaning people treat their Christian brothers & sisters and nonbelievers as roadblocks. Use it as an opportunity to slow down and verify where you are headed.
Shame on you
Biblical teaching should not be used to make women feel ashamed at the development of their bodies. That is wrong and simply distracts. Also do not deny the scripture that states, “I want women to adorn themselves modestly and appropriately and discreetly in proper clothing.” There are lightly dressed people on just about every secular commercial, movie and TV show.
Get out of the way
A societal expectation of the church is that it should be a place to get right with God. Is that really possible if Christians dress and behave as the world. The desire of growing our churches [not our job] allows compromise and detracts from the church’s mission. Do not be deceived into thinking someone is infringing on your right to express yourself. Be for each other. See the power in us – working to create a place where WE can draw closer to God.
Construct a safe setting
The best thing to do is to let God be God and ensure that a safe setting exists. You could be part of a church that judges men or women on how they dress. Just know that it will not bring lasting change and only serve to make you appear legalistic. A godly example is not someone trying to take on God’s work. Be practical and do not abdicate your responsibility. Make sure men and women are not in one-on-one meetings. Put side hugs into practice. Whenever possible, let women pray with other females. And men should pray with males. Try to eliminate compromising situations by keeping the focus on God.
Modesty or LOVE
I saw you over there lightly dressed
My response unequalled by the sight
Inside I lost the fight
Could not keep it close as I looked down on you
Unknowingly it was me
Standing legally with an unfit response
The one clothed improperly
You have seen it before as I am not alone
Forgive us – we are adorned in shame
God demands we Love you the same